Recognizing the ‘Red’

It is becoming clearer to me that one of the biggest problems for people re listening, is that they do not recognize, as I see it, a person’s ‘red’ in most conversations.  ‘Red,’ or a show of emotion, is usually not as obvious as this:

It’s usually more just an inflection on a word, or a facial expression.  We can watch for it whether we are speaking and someone is reacting, or we are just listening to someone who begins to talk to us.  I cannot emphasize enough how critical it is to continually ask the question, “Who’s got the ‘red?”